Let’s be honest about female anatomy!
This is the best place I can think of to start because it is very common for people to know surprisingly little about the female genitalia. I’m not going to be talking about internal reproductive organs (e.g., uterus, fallopian tubes, ovaries) in this entry. Those things were covered in my high school class, and I am willing to bet that people are taught more about those parts than they do about the external parts. For instance, there are quite a few full grown adults who don’t realize that you don’t pee from your vagina. There are actually 2 holes! I love that this was addressed in one of my favorite shows – Orange is the New Black [season 2, episode 4]. It is a Netflix show, so if you haven’t seen it, you can binge all episodes there. To be honest, I didn’t know much about my own genitalia before my first Human Sexuality class – halfway through college. I had never even taken the time to look at it properly!
Because I’m not an expert and I know there are far better sources than me to give you the brief overview, I’m going to refer you to a video from Dr. Lindsey Doe’s Youtube channel, Sexplanations. A good friend of mine told me about this channel, and it is one of my favorite things. If you have some time and feel clicking around, I highly recommend her videos!
Anyhow, here is her video about the female anatomy:
If you have never done so, I would also like to highly recommend that you take a minute to look at your own parts. You can use a hand mirror, a small compact mirror, or even stand over a full-length mirror, with one foot on each side. If I’m completely honest, I found it a bit unsettling the first time I looked at my own vulva. I almost felt like I shouldn’t be looking. But the more I looked, the more comfortable I became with my own vulva and the more I appreciated what I saw.
I’m not saying you have to love what you see or even find it fun to look at, but it is really important to know your own anatomy. Know what is normal for you. Become comfortable with yourself! If you remain unconvinced, I’ll also point out that if you know where your clitoris is, you’ll be able to masturbate more successfully and it will help you have better sex.